Women often become illogical optimists when it comes to men. Once we like a guy, we tend to lose perspective and start believing, “He’ll change once he sees how good we are together.” While a few men may genuinely want to grow for the woman they love, most prefer to be accepted as they are. Whether the issue is fear of commitment, arrogance, possessiveness, or immaturity, he’ll only change if he wants to. So before investing emotional energy, make sure you can handle him exactly as he is.